While watching a recorded episode of Dr. Phil about bullying. I got to thinking about the current trend in the news lately, kids killing themselves, parents transferring their kids schools, and other bullshit of the like. This is a big problem in America now, and in reality it extends further than just bullies, but that's a later post.
Bullies have been around since... about forever, really. We dealt with bullies in school, as did our parents and their parents, and so on and so fourth. But, it had become a culture of inaction, yea when I was in school, kids would pick on other kids, and fights would ensue. But, there was line that wasn't crossed, you may hear one kid make fun of another's clothes, or his hairstyle, or even sexuality, but it was never a constant occurrence, they didn't follow the kid around school, shit like that. And, a lot of the time the offender ended up buying the offended a Coke later, while the offended tutored the offender in math.
Now you have the other kind of bully, hard home life, usually poor as dirt, no real parents to speak of. And, I hate to call this kid a bully, but that's what they are. Even though, they're not doing it out of jealousy, or to be popular, or for any other real reason than they're just pissed off at you and the world, and just want to fight and beat the shit of someone.
The bad part is the latter is far more lost than the former. But, the good part is both can be dealt with in the same way. Just like it was when I was in school. At my school, if you were a bully and took things too far, you got told about it, and most likely showed, and taught a lesson. Though not always usually someone would stand up and step forward to challenge your actions. And, that is what is needed now, if you see someone bullying someone, get up and stand up for that kid just like he was your brother or sister. Or stand up for him as you would stand up for yourself. You can take anybody one this planet, and I'll use some examples of what I'm talking about here... Randy Coture, The Undertaker, Brock Lesner, any of them may be able to whup my ass, and maybe even two or three people at once, but they can't take ten. And, in the case of a bully, if one stands up to them, they most likely will back down. You have to let them know it will not be tolerated. And, the more that stand against a bully or bullies, the more effective you will be.
We need to quit catering to the ones who hurt us. Yes they need help, and I do feel sorry for the lad who has no parents, but he needs to know first and foremost that him beating up another kid will not be tolerated. Nor, will it be overlooked and not punished, just because he's got a bad home life. Same goes for the popular kid who does it to gain popularity. You should not, gain by making others suffer.
NY Daily News link to the Rutgers case.
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/ny_crime/2010/09/29/2010-09-29_rutgers_freshmen_busted_for_spying_on_fellow_students_online_sex_session_officia.html
Link to Dr. Phil's show on bullying.
http://www.drphil.com/shows/show/1517
